Step 2 to Create an Invincible Attitude:
Get Some Perspective

A bully wants you to be overwhelmed emotionally. When you lack calm self-confidence, he is in a better position to manipulate, control and undermine you.

To gain control of your emotions, get some perspective. Start by asking yourself these questions (after going through Field Guide and Evil Firms):

Diagnosis your workplace culture

What is the dominant culture? Does management encourage bullying? Does a bully have the support of management? Is their any chance the top executive will harshly discipline or fire the bully? Does the top executive have enough power and leadership to change the company's culture?

Understand the results of losing to the bully

What are the chances it will be a losing battle? How would I be impacted by engaging in a losing battle? Can I handle the downside of losing? Loss of self-worth Sense of powerlessness Sense of social isolation Feelings of incompetence Feelings of hopelessness, frustration, despair

Evaluate the rewards of winning

Do I want to work here in the long term? Is it worth the effort to conquer the bully? Is this job really worth fighting for?

Evaluate the alternatives to fighting

Can I avoid the bully and maintain my dignity and happiness? Can I transfer elsewhere in the company without retaliation from the bully? Should I find a new job instead of fighting?

Face your fear of changing jobs

How unpleasant will it be to look for another job? Has the bully already convinced me that I am not a competent and employable worker?

Understand the risks of doing nothing

Is doing nothing a solution, or would things get worse? Will I become infected by negativity if I stay in this job? Will my negativity harm my personal life?

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