Visible Trait #9:
A Bully is a Character Assassin

When a bully can't win with facts and logic,
he will instead attack the character of his opponents.

A bully suggests you are biased

- He suggests you have hidden motives - He implies your perspective is unreliable - He discredits your ideas and opinions

A bully suggests you are deficient psychologically

- He attempts to psychoanalyze you - He discusses your psychological make-up - He stereotypes your personality type

A bully misleads others to destroy your reputation

- He distorts past events to prove your deficiencies - He is thorough in remembering your past mistakes - He paints a negative, distorted picture of your patterns of behavior - He omits crucial information and explanations - He only tells one side of the story - He ignores the bias of his sources of information - He ignores the constraints that he placed upon you - He ignores the role of others in your mistakes

A bully attacks your character when you aren't there to defend yourself

- He refuses to let others come to your defense - He changes the subject rather than hear both sides of the story - He destroys your reputation, then suggests it's not worth discussing further - He attacks you during a monologue that is filled with misstatements - He runs out the meeting time so you can't respond

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