Visible Trait #8:
A Bully is Highly Critical

A bully is perpetually critical of others in
an attempt to dominate, intimidate and control.

A bully is overly critical of others

- He is always looking for something to criticize - He never acknowledges his role in the mistakes of others - He criticizes anything not perfect by his standards

A bully diminishes your importance

- He belittles your accomplishments - He discounts your ideas - He mocks your feelings

A bully criticizes you indirectly

- He criticizes what you believe in - He demeans the people who work for you - He discounts the importance of projects that you are involved in

A bully cross-examines you intensely

- He is never satisfied with your work - He ignores or misunderstands your explanations - He ignores the positive results to focus on the negative - He has an instant negative reaction to your comments or questions

A bully harps on the negative of your performance

- He reminds you of past mistakes or failures, often several times - He exaggerates your mistake to make you defensive - He implies you made a mistake, but won't let you respond - His criticisms are focused where you are the most vulnerable - He hits your emotional hot buttons again and again

A bully shows his disapproval by his impatience with you

- He does something himself rather than waiting patiently - He never takes the time to teach you how to do something - He impatiently cuts you off, rather than acknowledging your input - He makes decisions without getting your input - He attacks you when you debate his logic - He becomes impatient and frustrated when you challenge him

A bully criticizes your personality and emotions

- He wants to undermine your self-confidence - He wants to make you defensive - Types of questions and comments: "What's wrong with you today?" "People can sense your mood." "You're bringing down the company."

A bully makes you feel inferior and vulnerable

- He wants you to fear his criticisms - He wants you to crave any praise he gives you - He wants you to change your behavior in an effort to gain his approval

A bully never allows for unintentional mistakes

- He doesn't believe in honest misunderstandings - He assumes the worst about any mistake you make

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