Visible Trait #7:
A Bully is Judgmental

A bully judges others in order to intimidate, belittle and weaken them.

A bully passes judgment on your actions and intentions

- He suggests you lack competence, commitment or experience - He is quick to place blame - He is adept at creating scapegoats - He exaggerates a problem rather than minimizing it - He suggests that one person's criticism reflects everyone's view of you

A bully over-generalizes

- He stereotypes the behavior patterns of others - He labels people with demeaning terms: "He is lazy, unmotivated, disruptive." - He passes judgment by using innuendo: "That's just like him." If you make an honest mistake, he suggests you are a bad person. - He suggests that a single action reveals a major character flaw: If you forget to do something, he calls you careless. If you don't work late to meet a deadline, he calls you uncommitted.

A bully expresses his personal disappointment in your performance

- He implies you are overpaid and underworked - He predicts a worst-case scenario as a result of your mistake - He compares you to others who he describes as superior - He attempts to creates envy, jealously and pressure

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