Visible Trait #5:
A Bully is Strong-Willed

A bully is very strong-willed. He is never satisfied
and constantly pressures you to fulfill his desires.

A bully is pushy to an extreme

- He always wants more from you, no matter how much you give him - He demands extreme actions and commitments from you - He is constantly pushing his proposals - On major issues, he shoves his objectives down the throats of others - He is very ruthless in obtaining his objectives - He will stop at nothing to get what he wants

A bully is increasingly demanding over time

- He assumes you will ultimately cave to his wishes, so he keeps pushing - His attempts to compromise seem very one-sided (in his benefit) - Once you cave in to him, he begins making greater demands - Over time, he demands more and more from you

A bully is narrow-minded

- He insists his way is the only possible or reasonable action - He ridicules alternatives - He is closed to the ideas and suggestions others - He can't comprehend that others have valid viewpoints - He is never open to creative discussion - He attacks creativity with angry, distorted or belittling comments

A bully prevents adequate discussion of opposing views

- He doesn't allow you to explain an opposing argument - He refuses to discuss any alternatives to his plan - He tries to end a meeting before others have spoken fully - If he can't end a meeting, he leaves it - If he can't leave it, he withdraws from the discussion

A bully attacks you if you suggest a problem with his proposal

- He implies you have selfish motives - He suggests you are having a lapse in judgment - He becomes extremely frustrated and disappointed with you

A bully tries to win every point

- He diffuses your major points by attacking your minor points - He distracts others by making a mountain out of molehill - He views every point as critical to maintaining his own power - He isn't satisfied with just winning a point; he wants to embarrass you as well - He maintains power and control by a take-no-prisoners attitude

A bully pressures you by creating urgent deadlines

- He holds you to unreasonably short deadline imposed by others - He is unwilling to request extensions - He pressures you to make quick decisions - He forces decisions before giving you all the facts - He attacks you for delaying a decision - He suggests you have the "paralysis of analysis"

A bully uses others to control you

- He has his superiors counsel you - He has his subordinates pressure you - He suggests that others will disapprove or become angry - He manipulates others into publicly criticizing you

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