Classic Bullying Traits:
Anger

A bully uses anger as a major weapon of intimidation. His displays of anger may be soft-spoken and controlled, or violent verbal tirades.

A bully wants you to dread his explosions of temper. He creates fear, then uses it to control you.

How a bully displays anger

- Rants and raves - Screams and yells - Soft-spoken anger, barely under control - Displays hair trigger, ready to explode at the slightest provocation - Emotionally volatile - Barks orders with barely contained anger - Physical aggression, including slamming and throwing things - Angry gestures, such as pounding on the table

How a bully lies about his anger

- He says: "I'm angry because you screwed up." - He means: "I'm angry because you won't let me control you."

Why a bully expresses his anger so eagerly

- He ignores his lack of impulse control - He ignores the value of releasing anger in a mature way - He says: "I always express anger rather than bottle it up." - He says: "People who bottle up their anger are hurting themselves."

Why a bully has so much anger

- He doesn't attempt to avoid or diminish his anger - He never bothers to clarify simple misunderstandings - He never wants to hear the other side of the story - He never tries to understand something from the viewpoint of another

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